the ultimate goal for most of us is to be ourselves, free from the strings of social codes. however, this is not the case all the time. first rendezvous is one of them. for instance, i learned from past interview experiences several years ago that i couldn’t totally be myself in front of my prospective employer. otherwise, he or she would deem me as to “loose” or carefree. moreover, it is a no-no to tell everything on your first date. on a side note, someone reminded me that others tend to take advantage of us if we put up a first impression of always putting our guard down.
acting like our own true selves is feasible when we’re around people who have known us for quite sometime. we act like dorks in front of our significant others. husbands fart in front of their kids in the living room and blame it on their wives. friends do whatever they want with their buddies. all that good stuff. you can still be yourself and not cross the line or step on someone’s toes if both parties think on the same wavelength. but it can also be a gamble trying to be very comfortable without giving the wrong impression.
did you see that one series of dave chappelle about keeping it real? yeap, keeping it real will definitely make you lose your j.o.b. unless you are your own boss. it’s all of these unwritten rules. that may explain why we have censorship for the general public. why? cause all we see is just the tip of the iceberg. but trust me, it’s helpful in several ways as well.
i respect that. it’s true (and very beneficial) for most instances. but ultimately, we could be ourselves as long as we choose to accept who we are. still, enigma is what keeps us wondering. once the truth is out there, the papparrazzi challenge is gone. of course, the truth will always set us free. and we can always keep it real if we want to. i forgot how gene simmons exactly said it on family jewels, but there’s nobody else in the world who can love you more but yourself. that didn’t sound right.
sunday. my eyes are hurting and i’m still having a headache from playing gears of war all weekend. trust me, the next video game i will be playing will be for another 6 months.
people think i’m arrogant. people think i’m full of myself. i think i am. – gene simmons